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“If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!” Luke 11:13 NIV

I need to ask for the Holy Spirit and when I ask, my Father in heaven who knows more than any man (or woman) on earth how to give good gifts to his children will give me the Holy Spirit. If I feel a lack in my life, does that lack exist because I have failed to ask? James seems to think so. “You do not have, because you do not ask God.” (James 4:2) “Ask and it will be given to you,” Jesus says. “Everyone who asks receives.” (Matthew 7:7,8)

Do I ask only once or do I keep on asking until I have received? Jesus told the story of a widow who kept coming to the judge of her town, asking for justice. She didn’t give up asking though he kept refusing her request. In the end, he granted her what she asked and Jesus says that if an ungodly man would eventually give in to this woman’s pleas, how much more will God do the same for us if we keep crying out to him day and night? (Luke 18:2-8)

Can I ask for anything I want? No! My motives must be right. (James 4:3) Even if I’m asking for the Holy Spirit, if my motives are wrong, God will not grant my request. Look at Simon the sorcerer who offered to buy the Holy Spirit so he would have more power for his magic arts! (Acts 8:18-24)

What should I be asking God for? What needs do I see in my life and elsewhere that could be met if only I would ask and keep on asking with the right motives? “Ask and it will be given you.”

Lord, have I been missing out on something you want to do in me, for me or through me because I haven’t asked? Are there others who have been missing out because I have failed to ask you on their behalf? Am I being disobedient if I don’t ask you for what I need? Please help me remember to ask you and keep on asking and Lord, please keep my motives pure and honouring to you in all ways.


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I'm married (35 years in December 2008) with four grown sons. I love my city (Winnipeg) and my country (Canada) and promote them both to whoever will listen. God (through Jesus Christ) is the biggest part of my life. I am learning to let him take control of all areas--though I do better at this some times more than others.

I have written a book that's recently been published about part of my journey with God. In it I tell how God confronted me with the same-sex attraction issues I've struggled with all my adult life and how he led me through them to a deeper and more meaningful relationship with him. God is amazing—his forgiveness, his love, his movement in our lives when we allow him and so much more. I suspect God will never run out of things to teach me or ways to make me grow and that’s a good thing (though often very painful).

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Reviews of Searching for Love

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A Real Testimony
I finished your book. A real testimony to what God does for us.
Leona March 3, 2009
I Had Tears Coming

I sat down to read it about a week later and ended up finishing it the same night. At first I admit I was a little bored and thought that the whole book was about a battle all in your mind, but as I continued reading this creeping thought came over me of a different...struggle in my own life, that I would never in my right mind have shared with anyone accept maybe God. I've mentioned your book to a few people because it stirs up age-old controversies that I have myself argued and wondered about, namely about whether or not homosexuality can be cured or just managed like alcoholism--you just have to stay away from temptation. I noticed at the end of your book that your struggle story …