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Gentleness and Respect

“Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect.” 1 Peter 3:15

Gentleness and respect. To the disheveled drunk, lying on the sidewalk? Yes. To the homosexual couple living across the street? Yes. To the office gossip who never has anything good to say about anyone? Yes, yes, yes!

Father, sometimes I don’t feel very gentle at all and sometimes my distain or anger gets in the way of speaking to others with respect. But you made and love everyone and who would be drawn to you if I bashed your Word over their head?. No one is able to follow and obey you until your Spirit is living in them—and even then it can be hard. Help me to remember this so that I can point to you as the sole reason for hope—for them and for me—and do so with love, gentleness and respect.


Konrad said…
happy valentine's day, mom!
Hey Konrad! Thanks! A belated happy Valentine's Day to you too! I love you and miss you!

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