Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart. 1 Samuel 16:7 NIVToday I read a blog post called Fat Haters. The author, Lyn, tells the story of how she had just lost a very wanted baby through miscarriage. Life has to go on at these times and, in her emotional agony, she went to the video store where her son put some late videos in the drop bin and returned to the car. A woman came out of the store and started yelling at her, thinking she was trying to avoid late fees, and told her to never return to the store. Lyn writes:
I want to emphasize that you NEVER KNOW what someone else is going through, or has gone through. You don't know if the person in the grocery store seems grouchy because her husband passed away last week. You don't know if someone is thoughtless because they just had cancer treatments. You don't know if someone's actions are because they just lost a child. And you don't know if that fat person is losing weight, gaining weight, has a medical problem, or is eating for comfort because their mother is dying. Try to refrain from judgements. Try to give people the benefit of the doubt. There is nothing wrong with being kind.So true! We so quickly condemn people who look or are living in ways we think are wrong but we don't know the person's heart or their story.
Father, I confess that I have made conclusions about people without knowing their hearts and stories. I've put people some people on pedestals because of how they look and act or because of their position and others I've thought ill of for the same reasons. Forgive me, Lord, and help me to give others the benefit of the doubt.