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Where's the Dialogue and Understanding?

Dialogue between Christians who affirm homosexuality and those who don't "has to be open and it has to be honest....Ideally, we come together and understand each other before the end of the day -- or however long it takes." So Soulforce member Jarrett Lucas is purported to have said to Trading October 2, 2008. Soulforce is a gay activist group who was touring various Christian schools to gain support for their point of view.

I agree. We need to be able to dialogue about these things and, even when we come to different conclusions, to treat the other side with respect. Sadly, that isn't happening. on October 13, 2008 reported that a supporter of the Californian Proposition 8, distributing lawn signs, was attacked by someone who accused him of being against gays. The victim needed 16 stitches under his eye. Is this how we come together and understand each other?

According to Exodus International, NBC-4 of Maryland reported that students who wanted to donate books to West Springfield High School's library that "promote an evangelical Christian perspective on homosexuality" were refused. One student claimed that the librarian didn't even look at the books. Is this how we come together and understand each other?

To be sure, these articles are five months old and those who believe that homosexual behaviour is wrong have also been disrespectful and belligerent. Why can't both sides treat the other with respect and dignity, despite opposing views? Why can't both sides have their perspectives available in public facilities such as public schools and public libraries? What happened to free speech and the right to choose one's own beliefs?


Di said…
When Prop 8 passed here it got very ugly and I had the same thoughts...why do people have to go to such extremes, can't we all show some respect. Sadly, I think that's a lost art in today's world.
Nora said…
Hey Girl I am so glad you found me also!!!! It has been forever since I had a chance to read thru any of your stuff.... so this is way cool for me!!!
Abby said…
Good post... do I know you?
I was on a forum the other night... and there was a topic called "God is in control" which I think was inappropriate as it was a forum about how to play with an application... anyway the Christians over there were either saying, "I don't think this is in the right place" or saying "GO TO HELL YOU SINNERS" it was awful.
Hi Di and Nora!

Yes, Abby, we are acquainted. I can't find your e-mail address on your blog so here's mine: Send me a note and I'll let you know how/where we know each other.

What you describe about the conversation is sad. Christians should be known by our love, not our venom. Sadly, there are far too many people who call themselves Christian who are anything but loving.

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