I've been following a particular blog for quite some time now and am often blessed by what I read there. It's written by a woman who is in the process of healing from things that should never be done to a child. She's come a long way and I rejoice in the progress she has made. In a recent blog post she wrote the following:
Therapist says the sad feelings are important. Eventually, I will understand and embrace them for they are my personal responses to the painful, unacceptable situations in my life. He believes the sadness might return periodically throughout my lifetime, but I will recognize it, allow it, and move on without becoming overwhelmed by it. He says to feel nothing, to ignore the abuses, allows them continued power. As I weep for my losses, for the hurting child and subsequent aftermath throughout my teen and adult life, I allow those things to heal without disregarding their importance, without denying the existence of events which intensely harmed me, and with that acknowledgement I take control of protecting myself in healthy ways.Thank you, Samantha. You are a blessing.